Good at You
Empowered Dating & Relationship Coaching
Because a great relationship starts with yourself.....
ARE YOU A SOULFUL, KICK-ASS WOMAN THAT CAN'T SEEM TO FIND THE LOVE YOU WANT?
MeLanie Hersch, LMFT
Hi! I'm Melanie Hersch.
I'm confident that I can help you because frankly --- I was you!
In addition to being a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Dating and Relationship Coach at eHarmony, I'm a former seasoned dater mysef. And let me tell you, I understand how frustrating it can be!!
Okay....let's get real here. You’re a great catch!
You have a great sense of humor.
Kick ass friends.
You're intelligent and kind.
You’ve done a ton of personal work.
You're fit and active and take great care of yourself.
You have an amazing life and KNOW you have so much to offer a partner.
So why the f*ck does it seem so hard to find love?
The Frustrations of Dating
I know what it's like -- going on date after date -- struggling to find a high quality man who is just right for you. Or worse, finding guys seem amazing -- only to have them disappear and turn out to be unavailable.
I get it -- because I was there myself.
And I was SO confused!!! It just didn't. Make. Sense.
* I was healthy.
* I had incredible, fun, loyal friends
* I could tell jokes that would make people spit out their drinks
* Did Personal Growth work and owned my "stuff"
* I took amazing trips and traveled
* I was passionate.
* Well educated.
*Was close with my family.
* I had a job I loved.
All in all....I thought....ummm...shouldn't I sort of be a......CATCH?!!
As each year passed and I STILL wasn't meeting anyone I deeply loved, I started to wonder the secretly shaming question...
"Is there something wrong with me?"
Is there some major flaw I have that I'm just not seeing?
That none of my friends are gutsy enough to tell me?
AM I being too picky?? (I mean, my mom couldn't be right, could she?!)
And as the end of my baby making years started creeping up on me....I started thinking....shit. Is this really NOT going to happen?
I always thought I'd be a mom. A wife. Drive the kids to soccor games and have family dinners and take vacations together. Cry and laugh together and dork dance in the kitchen to Michael Jackson while cooking dinner.
I had this big vision for my life. Yet none of it was what I had.
I had everything except what I REALLY wanted: a BIG LOVE.
Sometimes hopelessness would creep in. A feeling of: "Is this really meant to be my life? Will I never get the thing I long for most? A big love.
I would often vaccilate between hopelessness and faith.
It just depended on where I was at in the moment and what the last experience was to find it's way on my plate.
Up and down. Up and down my emotions would go. Date after date. False start after false start with each new romantic relationship I entered.
I've always been a huge personal development junkie....and so I was determined to figure out just why I was having such a hard time finding the right partnership. There had to be something I wasn't seeing clearly. Some blind spot. And I was determined to find it!
Years later, after doing a ton of personal and spiritual work, reading every book by every expert that I heard was a must have....going to every workshop.....
The Secret Gift of Dating
Listen, dating can be a windy road. Full of trials and tribulations. But it can also be your greatest teacher.
Teaching you more about yourself.
Who you REALLY are.
What's most important to you.
How you self sabatouge and abandon yourself.
What your strengths and weaknesses are.
What kinds of boundaries you have.
How confident you truly are.
Dating will undoubably show you all the areas that you are stuck.
All the places that need love and attention within yourself.
The good news is: When you start actually working with what's coming up in your dating and relationship life, it can be your greatest gift ever.
The pains, the joys, the anxieties, the confusion, the frustration....it's all here to help grow you into the most evolved and incredible woman you can be.
It's just up to you if you use the challenges of dating as an opportunity to grow -- or sadly like others... an opportunity to play victim and feel small. (I think you clearly know which way I choose!!) :)
actually start doing the deep inner work -- mining all of your dating and relationship experiences
Determined to figure out why my dating and relationship life was proving to be so hard, I committed myself to understanding all I could about dating and relationships. After over 15 years of having gone on hundreds of dates, studying with top experts in the field, using myself as my own guinea pig, I finally figured out exactly what was holding me back from love!
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